I do not have the answer for every one. Only the answer to my life story.
“Believe nothing no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and common sense.” ~Buddha
I remember learning of the old days, times of cowboys and times of pilgrims. Our history tells us that we came to America for Freedom. In those days there was no issue of how your home looked. It was a blessing just to be able to cut down trees and build a log cabin. We did not even know about paint till one day some one decided to paint a barn. Then it caught on every one wanted a red barn. We did not all have grass or even care if the neighbor cut down there weeds. In those days weeds were medicine to some, food to others. We were rich if we had a glass window to look out of. Many kids were raised in a 1 room home. We did not start imposing excessive laws and rules on our self and others till latter on in history. The thoughts all started with some ones judgment and need to control others. And the power to control grew stronger over lime.
Now we have so many laws and rules it is unbelievable what we pay people to come up with.
We have allowed the government to tell us how to live and we pay them to do it.
We sit back and complain to deaf ears. As we feel powerless to change any thing.
We let our neighbors become victims to city inspectors.
I had one knock on my door in the mid 1990's The issue was,I had a pumpkin plant that was growing near the foundation of my home. It was planted among the flowers, yet it grew legs and started taking over the sidewalk that started from my door to my driveway. (The local beauty police. Aka Building inspector) One day knocked on my door.
She had a dumbfounded look on her face.. She looked at the plant and asked. What is this growing all over the side walk. I said a punkin plant. She seemed distressed and said you do see it is taking over your walk. I said yes.
She had no ideal what to say or do. She could do nothing about it because it was a vegetable and not a weed. And there was no law on the books that said your side walk could not be covered by a veggie plant. So, she could not give me a ticket, But if I would have had snow on my walk. She could have. There is a law that said the walk had to be shoveled in times of snow fall. At that time i felt so free. I smiled and she left. I was then allowed to let the punkin plant grow as long as it wanted. And they could not pass a new law quick enough to make me do any thing. But my plant harmed no one. It just bothered her.
The issue of rules and laws. People saying and judging others has been one of my biggest issues in this life time. I think of it as a god complex for some. You have to dress this way. Look this way. Talk this way. Or you are made to feel inferior. But the truth is. Who are they to judge and make rules for us to follow. If I want to wear a pink shirt and green pants blue shoes, yellow hat. Tan coat. Sure I look like a rain bow. But who said this was unexceptionable. I am a bit of a rebel. I use to be worried about what people said about me. But now I do not care. I dress the way I want. talk the way I want. And wish the world was free for every one to rebel and just live and let live. In peace, joy and happiness.
I now feel, If you do not like the way I dress or think. It is your loss not mine if you chose to leave me out of your circle. To me what counts in this life is how kind you are. If you care about others more than your self. If you want the best for others. To see them happy. I am judgmental when it comes to mean people. I do not see why they have to make sure some one else has a bad day. I chose to exclude people like this from my circle. As I feel the painful energy they throw out to the world. I would love it if they would learn to deprogram. But I except that they have the freedom to be the way they are. It is not my place to make them change. My mom is one who has so many rules. And she is full of judgment. But It is like the old saying you can not teach an old dog new tricks. But I have learned to accept her just the way she is. And go on with my life. I live life the way it feels right to me. And that is all that matters.
Live and let live.
Have a wonderful day and remember to laugh and play.